If you think your child or a loved one is considering suicide, here are some helpful tips to start the conversation. If you believe there immediate risk of suicide or self harm,contact 911 and stay with them until help arrives.

Ask directly about thoughts of suicide:

“Are you thinking about suicide?”

“Have you thought about killing yourself?”

By asking directly you will avoid and confusion or hiding behind vague answers. If you think your child is having thoughts of suicide, but won’t open up to you after directly questioning them, find a different adult they trust to ask the same question, such as a coach, youth leader, counselor, friend or family member.


  • Do not rush to judgment or tell them they are “crazy” for thinking about suicide
  • Don’t try to solve their problems right away
  • Give them time to talk and explain what they are going through

Have your resources and supports ready:

  • Local Mental Health Providers
  • Clergy Members
  • School Counselors
  • TXT4Life or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
  • Other resources available here


If you or someone you care about is experiencing any of these signs, text “Life” to 61222*.

Trained, compassionate counselors are ready to help.

If you believe that the person’s life is in imminent danger, call 911.